On conversations punctuated by psss! over spaghetti

Watching my kids grow up has been a hobby of mine for over seventeen years now.� Lately, however, as my daughters have wandered into their teenage years, it hasn’t always looked like progress.

Last night was�case in point.� My eldest’s school band was hosting the Gustavus Adolphus Wind Orchestra for one stop on their whirlwind January tour through the frozen north (whose idea was that?).� After an excellent concert, two college students – Ann and Amanda – were to stay over night with us.� They were great guests.

Some other band-parent friends of ours, Peg and Keith, invited our crew down for spaghetti,�so with�a couple of our kids’ friends joining in, there were sixteen people around a long, makeshift table – four college students,�six high school students, two junior high students, and four traditional adults (Peg and Keith would probably be crushed to be labeled “traditional,” or even “adult,” but this isn’t about them).

Anyway, it was the hope of (one) adult (anyway) that the high school students would engage their guests, the college students, in some form of human communication (in truth, this did happen both before and after the meal over some games).� What happened�at the meal�was that the high school students began talking – loudly – about their usual topics, like other students, what he said, what she said, and the like.� They also returned to the old standby of various inside jokes, often just sounds (pssss!) or words,�that were hilariously funny to them, but opaque to everyone else.

The end result was that the traditional adults made conversation� with the college students in the shadow of much more animated high school converstaion punctuated by lots of joyful sqealing.

Enough teen bashing.� I hate to complain about my kids or any of the others there, because they’re really great kids.� At seventeen, my conversations were probably equally as incomprehensible.� It’s just that I noticed a marked difference between the two groups that I�hadn’t been�aware of.� The college students could discuss things that were outside of their immediate scope.� They had a concept of a larger world where things were going on that meant something.� The high school students were enthralled with all the little things they had in common, and had no concept that, while these shared experiences and ideas�were wildly interesting to them, they were of little value to everyone else.

I hate the way I’m sounding here.� I’m definitely being the traditional adult.� I don’t mean to say that there’s anything wrong with the teenage converstation, except that in the context of a group that included “outsiders,” the teens�were completely unaware that converstaion could be something that includes a bigger circle.� Can someone say Narcissism?� Can someone say MySpace?� Can someone say blogger?

I was talking about this to my friend Jocelyn today, and her comment was not that there was a problem, but that we’d just�seen a glimpse of what could be.� Maturity is possible.� Pass the Neuman’s own dressing, please.

I’m counting on no one reading to the end of this, especially my seventeen year old.� If she does read this, she probably won’t talk to me for weeks.� Even years.� Dang, I love her, and I’ll miss her, but there will be an up-side to the silence.

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Second try at some audio (with special thanks to Barry!)

Ahem!� As I was saying, here are a few good moments you can hear for yourself (see end).

Could it really be this simple?� Let’s give a listen…

Kansas City

That was nice.� Let’s try another.

Spoons

Maybe I’m reaching, but I think there are a few good moments in there.

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A Few Good Moments

Some guys and I have been playing together off and on for several years now.� After one of our recent sessions, Greg offered up the obvious question.� “Why aren’t we any better?”� No one had any answers.

My goal was to somehow post an mp3 file of us playing Kansas City.�� It didn’t work.� Time to find the FAQ’s regarding posting audio files…

Stay tuned.� Maybe I’ll get if figured out while I’m supposed to be working on other things.

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In Cold Blood

I’ve never read�any true crime.� For my first one, I guess it was fitting that I should pick up Truman Capote.� It was pretty darned good.

It’s the story of the Clutter murder in Holcolm, Kansas in 1959.� I’m not spilling the beans here.� There’s never any mystery as to what happened.� Four Clutters – dad, mom, teenage son, teenage daughter – are brutally murdered in their rural home.� The bulk of the book delves into the lives of the murders – Dick Hickkock and Perry Smith.� Capote follows them up through their hangings.

What I found most compelling were the portraits of these two murderers.� They killed the family in cold blood – and weren’t even on meth.� They deserve no compassion, but Capote shows them to be human, vulnerable, and memorable.� Capote’s journalism and objectivity is remarkable.� He never preaches, never condemns.� He just tells the story in all it’s sordid, gory, horrific detail, and I’m not just talking about the murder.

The surprise favorite character, by the way, was Big Red the squirrel.

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The Fallen Man

I whipped through this 1997 Tony Hillerman in two days.� I don’t think I’ve read a Hillerman for ten years, so it’s fitting that I picked up this decade old work.

I lived on the rez in Shiprock from 1986-91, and Hillerman definitely makes me nostalgic for the high desert and Navajoland.� Fallen Man in particular was poignant because much of it was climbing around Tse’bit’ai, the Shiprock, which I saw every time I walked outside my front door.� I never climbed it, but I poked around its base many times.� It’s an awesome piece of rock, for sure.� He also makes frequent geographic references to other places I instantly recognize, like the Carrizzos, Lukachukai, Hogback, and Table Mesa.� I’m so lonesome I could cry.

The premise is that a long-dead climber’s body is found on Shiprock.� Leaphorn comes out of retirement to figure it out and get’s Chee to help.� Chee is still having problems with his love life, which Hillerman handles about as delicately as, well, Ted Koppel in cowboy boots.� He also throws in lots of useful but clunky cultural tidbits that I’d probably think were insightful if I hadn’t lived there.� To me they read like something inserted from a National Monument display.

Still, it was a great read.� I love Jim Chee’s trailor.

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My Antonia

My wife brought this Willa Cather classic home from the Peace Church library recently.� I’d just finished another book and it was handy, so I read it.

The only other Cather I’ve ever read was Death Comes to the Archbishop, which I’d found to be a very dramatic title for a pleasant and unmemroable little piece of pastoral prose.� I was living in New Mexico at the time, so I enjoyed the setting and the history, and it was a pleasant read, but I wouldn’t ever have called it gripping or powerful.� My Antonia is much the same.� I’ve travelled across Nebraska and lived in western North Dakota, and so the prairie descriptions made me nostalgic, but the book�seemed rather rambling and purposeless much of the time.

The premise is that we’re reading the remembrances of Jim Burden about his compelling childhood friend, the immigrant Antonia.� What we really read are stories about Jim where Antonia occassionally make appearances, and frankly doesn’t stand out as all that remarkable.

Sill, I really like when Jim and Antonia wander into the prairie dog town and Jim kills a rattler with a stick.

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A correction, a fish tank, and the phantom railroad accident

First I must correct factual information in my previous entry.� I don’t know what blogger etiquette is, but instead of actually editing the entry, I’m doing it this way.� I thank my mother, Phyllis, and my brother, Karl, for filling me in on this early period of my life beyond the scope of my memory.

Dr. William H. Knobloch, contrary to said misinformation, did NOT conduct my eye surgery in 1966.� I’m not sure that they did in this first surgery, but it was done by a Dr. Brochhurst of Boston.� My dad was attending Brown University on an NSF scholarship and we lived for a year or two on Ruth Avenue in Rumford, Rhode Island.� After completing his Masters there, my dad moved us to Thief River Falls, Minnesota to take a job at Northland Community College in its innagural year.� He actually travelled to TRF ahead of the family, and my courageous mother travelled by bus and train across the country with three children – Karl (6), Ruth (4), and me (2).� Family legend has it that she actually attached a leash to me for the majority of the journey.� Since that time I’ve always responded well to any training accompanied by treats – dog or otherwise.� I also answer to, “Here, boy!”

The “buckle” was added in a second surgery in 1968 in Madison, Wisconsin by a Dr. Davis.� I remember this journey.� My mother and I took a train from TRF, switching trains in the Twin Cities.� I remember the hospital stay.� There was a large and well stocked playroom, and I built a pretty impressive house of wooden blocks with my roommate.� His legs were in braces and didn’t move much.� He would push himself around on the glossy tiled floors with his hands, his stiff legs stuck out in front of him.� I built him into the house.

There was a fish tank built into a wall and I could see a conference room on the other side (the surgery was clearly a success since I was seeing at all).��I remember watching the angel fish flutter slowly past, and suddenly recognizing my mother and a doctor facing each other across a table on the other side.� They appeared to be in deep conversation.� I pressed my face against the glass, waving wildly (in my memory), but neither my mother, the doctor, nor the angel fish�took any notice of me.� I don’t know how long we were there, but it must have been a good week.

I have another peculiar memory of the return trip.� My mom does not remember this, so I doubt it somewhat, but it’s always been a pillar of my early memory canon.� The train stopped in the middle of a rural area, and someone�rushed through our train car asking for a doctor because a child on the tracks had been run over, cutting off his legs.� I remember seeing this boy in my imagination.� He was my disabled roommate, his legs now gone, being carried by a doctor from car to car.

I suppose I could sleuth out whether such an accident really happened between Madison and St. Paul in 1968.� Real or not, it’s always been a stark image that my mind returns to when I think of my earliest years.

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Buckles, hour glasses, and other useful information from my eye doctor

Yesterday I spent some time with my eye doctor, Dr. Herbert Cantrill.� I live with a congenital condition called juvenile retino-schesis.� Among many things, this means I visit Dr. Cantrill annually.� To be honest, it had been three years.� My condition is pretty static, so I’ve been lazy.� My laziness was rewarded with a demotion to “new patient status.”� It wasn’t until the good doctor directed a screaming white light through my pupil to peer at the retina slouched against the back wall that I noticed recognition return to his voice.� “Ahh, yes…”� He never forgets a retina.

Back in 1966, Dr. William Knobloch, the only retina specialist in the midwest at the time, performed surgery on my eyes.� My retinas were detatched, and a “buckle” was buckled.� I always envisioned a shiney belt buckle�glinting in the back of my eye, proping up the slouching retina.� I’ve been imagining this for 40 years.�

Dr. Cantrill and I got to discussing my condition, and I brought up Dr. Knobloch and the buckle.� He said Dr. Knobloch died this past summer.� He’s something of a giant in the world of retinal medicine, and was a big part of my youth.� My whole family made annual six-hour trips from Thief River Falls to the University of Minnesota Children’s Hospital.� There, Dr. Knoblock and his lackeys would wrestle me down to a table and�stab the piercing light into my�frantic eyes.� My older brother Karl,�who has the same condition, would get them warmed up first, so they were always ready for me.� Even today,it’s truly the thing I dread most.� Homeland Security operatives, when they�detain me, will surely have better success with this than with water boarding.� Anyway, thanks to Dr. Knobloch, my condition has never really changed over the years.� God Speed, Dr. William H. Knobloch.

It’s the buckle, however, that got my attention.� Dr. Canrill said, “The buckle is really high.”

“What does that mean, the buckle is ‘high?'” I asked.� I was thinking about a brassy buckle scampering up to the roof of my eyeball.

“Do you want to see a picture?” he replied.� I did.�

It turns out that the scleral buckle is really a silicone belt wrapped around my eyeball, like a belt.� Actually it reminds me of those little rubber hands that kids with braces used to play with on their desks at school.� Since the buckle’s application, my eye has grown, “giving your eyeball an hour glass shape,” continued Dr. Cantrill.

Who knew?� Clearly after 41 years it was time to find out.� Turns out it as only one google search away.� Check it all out if you want to know more @ http://www.eyemdlink.com/EyeProcedure.asp?EyeProcedureID=52

And to think this procedure really hasn’t changed in 40 years!� More later.

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Write Now

I remember first hearing a reference to “blog” on MPR several years ago.� Some minor Washington staffer was blogging, revealing inside information about Washington somebodies, and everyone was reading it…everyone but me, of course.

Several years later, I’m�writing my innagural blog entry.� Few will read it because I have no valuable insider information of interest (though I could spread some gossip my daughters bring home from school).� However, I expect to generate some readership among my composition students.� In fact, I’ll make it required reading for them.� I’m going to make them blog, too.� All of us blogging together in the name of writing better, there probably is no sound pedagogical precedent for it, but one of my colleagues has been doing it for awhile, and it works great.� Wish me luck!

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